We’ve all heard the term “reactive dog,” but what if I told you that calling a dog reactive can be a disservice to both the dog and their Guardian? It’s a label that can overshadow all the amazing things our dogs bring to our lives, reducing them to a single trait. But in reality, they’re so much more than that.
When we focus solely on a dog’s reactivity, we risk missing out on the richness of their personalities—the quirky behaviours, the moments of pure joy, and the small victories. This is especially true for those of us with dogs who struggle with reactivity. You know, the dogs who bark, lunge, or act out when they feel threatened or overwhelmed. It’s easy to get lost in that behaviour and forget that, just like humans, dogs are multi-dimensional beings. They have good days and bad days, just like us. They have fears, preferences, and moments of pure, unfiltered happiness.
Take my dog, Stormzy, for example. We first fostered him as a puppy, and he was later adopted by another family. Unfortunately, the adoption didn’t work out, and he came back to us. When he returned, we noticed that he had developed some reactivity issues. However, nothing about the way I perceive him changed. I already knew Stormzy as more than just his reactions. From the moment he arrived, I saw a dog who loved to sunbathe, demanded cuddles, and had a quirky, playful side. His reactivity is just one part of who he is, and while we’re working on it, we simply love him for who he is, reactivity and all.
Stormzy
This is a perspective I wish more Guardians could adopt when working with their own dogs. It’s so easy to get bogged down by a dog’s behaviour—especially when their reactions feel overwhelming or even frustrating. But when we start to see the full picture, we realise that a reactive dog is still a dog with unique traits, quirks, and personality.
For example, when I work with clients who have reactive dogs, I encourage them to take a step back and think about what their dog brings to the table beyond the reactivity. Is your dog a cuddle monster who loves to snuggle up on the sofa? Does your dog have a funny quirk, like spinning in circles when they’re excited or chasing their tail until they’re dizzy? These are the things that make your dog who they are, and when we start to focus on those positive traits, we shift our energy from frustration to appreciation.
For Guardians, this shift can be incredibly freeing. It means you’re no longer stuck in the cycle of constantly trying to fix or change your dog’s behaviour. Instead, you’re acknowledging their whole being—the parts that need work, and the parts that are already amazing. And, when you begin to see your dog as more than just their reactivity, you open up the space for meaningful progress and real connection.
This mindset doesn’t just apply to reactive dogs. It can be helpful for all kinds of behaviours. Whether you’re dealing with a dog who’s anxious, fearful, or just a bit too excitable at times, embracing your dog for all that they are—not just their challenges—can lead to a much more fulfilling relationship.
The truth is, dogs are so much more than their reactivity. When we let go of the labels and start to appreciate them for who they really are, we unlock the door to a deeper bond and a more peaceful life together. And in turn, that makes the process of training, behaviour management, and everyday life a whole lot more enjoyable for both of you.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or frustrated with your dog’s behaviour, try taking a step back and seeing them for all the good things they bring to your life. It’s a game changer.